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Your 6 Month Check-in

So. How are those New Year's resolutions coming?

 

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Believe it or not, we're half-way through 2017. I know, I hate to be "that" messenger, but I think it's important to check in with our goals. January 1 we flocked to our notepads, creating lists of "will nots" and laid out a blueprint for the better version of ourselves we hoped to see in a 365 turn around. But- realistically, these plans often crash and burn. Studies have referred to the NYE resolution as "culturally-prescribed procrastination" and unfortunately, I think it's pretty accurate. 

Remember those vision boards?

 

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The key to moving forward with your goals is to eject your discipline function. Why? Because motivation tends to be an early fleeting passenger when it comes down to working in the uncomfortable. It's not too late. You already know YWF's philosophy, all about the bite-sized movements. Your approach to your resolutions should be no different. Work to see a consistent behavior change not a result. Do know, you're not alone; Sometimes it's difficult for me to see that the smaller breadcrumbs create the larger slice. In other words: don't discount the small changes you make each day to reach you goal. Aim to seek better rituals and lifestyles; let's focus on the present.

Positive Distraction of The Week

Don't be afraid of the failure to launch resolutions. If the last six months have been less than stellar or you're not where you thought you'd be, let's work to get unstuck. Check in with yourself and revisit your goals. Are they realistic? Have you developed a process to evaluate your progress? Is anyone holding you accountable? Do you really know why you decided to change this behavior?

Here's what we're going to do:

First: Pick 1-2 goals and focus on them. You're probably not building that orphanage AND propelling off Mt. Kilimanjaro this year. Small, bite-sized, units for this marathon called behavior change. Also, no more putting the cart before the horse- cancel that. Be mindful, get specific, and let's do this.

Next: Think about anchoring yourself with a keystone habit. What's that? Basically, a habit that leads to other changes in various aspects of your life, subsequently altering all of them. Think: the domino effect. 

For example: My keystone habit is learning a new skill. I try to take a few minutes to learn something new about something that interests me. What ends up happening is that I simultaneously activate a productivity source that connects the new skill to something else I have in place. This then energizes me to work on goals that I've set out.  Here's how to identify yours and ideas if you're a little stuck. 

Last: Celebrate your small milestones. There is no rule that says you can only get happy about your behavior when the final product is on the table.Give yourself a break when needed, but don't stay too long. You've got this: 

 

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How do you plan to revitalize your next 6 months? Let me know + tag a friend who also needs to get their life. Also, feel free to share the love via the links below. I'm already looking forward to session with you next Sunday. Thanks so much for following up this week.

Best, Dr. Dyce