How To Survive Temporary Situations
Today's session focuses on temporary situations. The in-between moments of life that often feel excruciatingly long and impossible. Being resilient in tough situations requires the continued practice of your self-care skills so that when life gets hard, it becomes automatic what you need to do to protect your head, so to speak. However, sometimes we need a bit of a reminder.
I could personally write a book about managing "the in-between" as I constantly struggle to maintain the idea of who I used to be and synthesize that to the person I actually am today. You can even see the fringe seeping through parts of this blog lately (my apologies) as I try to transition to the next level and evolve with and for YWF. It requires a juggling of keeping my old strategies incorporated until I completely shift to the next level I aspire to be. They say that every new phase of life requires a new version of yourself, but what they don't tell you is that you will also have to learn how to maintain and continue the older version of yourself as well; this can be exhausting.
You may often find that you need a pick-me-up or some form of kick in the pants to continue moving forward, but it doesn't make it any easier. So I decided to share what I believe to be go-to strategies and tips to help you push forward and thrive during the temporary moments of your life. This can be anything from a temporary living situation, place of employment, changes in relationship, or family dynamic. Below you'll find 5 tips for the temporary seasons in life that make you feel like you're stuck: in a ditch, the muck & non-patiently waiting for triple A.
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Remember that every level requires a new version of you. The temporary situations are just that, fleeting and not meant to be permanent fixations. Try these strategies when you are looking to survive different and challenging phases in your life.
1. Identify the problem you're feeling; there's nothing worse than going through a short-term situation with long-term feelings. Check yourself. What are you experiencing and what emotions are manifesting? Then ask yourself, are you really mad at Carol-Ann or are you mad at the dirt?
2. Don't skip the struggle; if I was into super graphic tattoos on my body I think this is one I'd get plastered in stencil font. The first thing we want to do when life gets tough is to skip the struggle. This is especially true for temporary situations when you know in the back of your mind you won't be there for long anyway, right? Wrong. When you skip the struggle, you're essentially repressing the emotion you identified in step one ^. This can lead to lots of icky things like resentment and spite. Don't skip the struggle or the struggling emotions. Take each brick down and use them to stand on when you make it through to the other side.
3. Remove the creature from the habit; My dad says that I create solutions for problems that haven’t even happened yet. Guilty. One of my favorite avoidance tactics for temporary situations is to checklist my way through things. It's a habit that reinforces old habitual thoughts and subsequently behaviors. While this may have it's benefit, life in your temporary situation becomes a lot easier of an episode when you remove the cognitive bind you have about what you think you should be doing based on your previous sitatuons. No one says you cant go back to that person, but for right now, they're just a nusisance.
4. Practice mindfulness; I've said it before and I'll say it again. I used to think mindfulness was a joke. But then: I got busy. Life started to get hectic and I had no choice but to stop, breathe, and organize the mental space above in order to function and be productive. Mindfulness is a major key for temporary situations because often you'll need to slow down and remind yourself that everything is eventual and that your current environment or situation is not forever. Namaste all day.
5. Acceptance; The most rebellious I've ever been in life is walking through the exit door when it's clearly labeled enter. However, the challenging moments in my life have been when I try to rebel and skip the acceptance portion of my temporary situation. You've got to figure out a way to come to grips and accept where you are, acknowledge the present, so that you can move forward and get to where you need to be. I know that this is all easier said than done, but think about what the opposite is; How is that resistance working for you?
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Best, Dr. Dyce